How to Know and Better Understand Ourselves
- Iliana Alvarez
- Jun 14, 2018
- 6 min read
Know Thyself:
Lately, I've been submerging myself in human behavior, communication, sociology, and subjects alike. It was learning about these that I came across the work of Dr. Karen Jacobson. You can say she is like a the Female version of Tony Robbins. She is a High-Performance Strategist, who helped me reach many aha moments.
Dr. Karen Jacobson explains how vital to success is understanding yourself your communication style and the communication styles of others.
Understanding who you are, what your learning style is, what your qualities and weaknesses are is beneficial to you because:
By knowing and understanding yourself, you can work better with others.
By knowing your learning style, you can learn more, faster, and with less difficulty.
Knowing your weaknesses and your talents allows you to know what you need to work on, and what you are best working on.
Knowing what people you work best with helps you choose better teams of people to work with.
& the list goes on and on...
But knowing ourselves is not easy. People go their entire life trying to understand who they are and what works for them. The journey to self-discovery can definitely be long confusing and challenging, and it is for this reason that I would love to share with you a very helpful assessment tool. This test/self assessment type exercise helped me better understand who I am, what people I work best with, what my communication style is, and much much more.
Best part: IT'S completely FREE! So give it a try!
-I'll temporarily also link this on my IG bio for you to just link away :)
May you become more self-aware and benefit yourself from this as much as you possibly can!
***AND If you have taken some similar assessments that you found accurate and very helpful, please mention them below so that we can all benefit from them.
Also if you are human behavior crazy and would like to understand yourself and others better check out Dr. Karen Jacobson:
She is a wonderful soul with a lovely personality and highly effective way of teaching. I find her training extremely valuable. Least to say she blew my mind. I want to invite everyone reading this to take her courses.
oh and if you are curious according to this assessment I'm considered an "INTJ" this is short for Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging.
What are you?
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INTD Explained?
INTJ: To outsiders, INTJs may appear to project an aura of "definiteness", of self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive, is actually of a very specific rather than a general nature; its source lies in the specialized knowledge systems that most INTJs start building at an early age. When it comes to their own areas of expertise -- and INTJs can have several -- they will be able to tell you almost immediately whether or not they can help you, and if so, how. INTJs know what they know, and perhaps still more importantly, they know what they don't know.
INTJs are perfectionists, with a seemingly endless capacity for improving upon anything that takes their interest. What prevents them from becoming chronically bogged down in this pursuit of perfection is the pragmatism so characteristic of the type: INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This, in turn, produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake.
INTJs are known as the "Systems Builders" of the types, perhaps in part because they possess the unusual trait combination of imagination and reliability. Whatever system an INTJ happens to be working on is for them the equivalent of a moral cause to an INFJ; both perfectionism and disregard for authority may come into play, as INTJs can be unsparing of both themselves and the others on the project. Anyone considered to be "slacking," including superiors, will lose their respect -- and will generally be made aware of this; INTJs have also been known to take it upon themselves to implement critical decisions without consulting their supervisors or co-workers. On the other hand, they do tend to be scrupulous and even-handed about recognizing the individual contributions that have gone into a project and have a gift for seizing opportunities which others might not even notice.
In the broadest terms, what INTJs "do" tends to be what they "know". Typical INTJ career choices are in the sciences and engineering, but they can be found wherever a combination of intellect and incisiveness are required (e.g., law, some areas of academia). INTJs can rise to management positions when they are willing to invest time in marketing their abilities as well as enhancing them, and (whether for the sake of ambition or the desire for privacy) many also find it useful to learn to simulate some degree of surface conformism to mask their inherent unconventionality.
Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel. While they are capable of caring deeply for others (usually a select few), and are willing to spend a great deal of time and effort on a relationship, the knowledge, and self-confidence that make them so successful in other areas can suddenly abandon or mislead them in interpersonal situations.
This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals; for instance, they tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation (which most types consider half the fun of a relationship). To complicate matters, INTJs are usually extremely private people, and can often be naturally impassive as well, which makes them easy to misread and misunderstand. Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs really want people to make sense. 🙂 This sometimes results in a peculiar naivete', paralleling that of many Fs -- only instead of expecting inexhaustible affection and empathy from a romantic relationship, the INTJ will expect inexhaustible reasonability and directness.
Probably the strongest INTJ assets in the interpersonal area are their intuitive abilities and their willingness to "work at" a relationship. Although as Ts they do not always have the kind of natural empathy that many Fs do, the Intuitive function can often act as a good substitute by synthesizing the probable meanings behind such things as tone of voice, turn of phrase, and facial expression. This ability can then be honed and directed by consistent, repeated efforts to understand and support those they care about, and those relationships which ultimately do become established with an INTJ tend to be characterized by their robustness, stability, and good communications.
(INTJ stands for Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging and represents individual's preferences in four dimensions characterizing personality type, according to Jung's and Briggs Myers' theories of personality type.)
Hope this is helpful.
INTJ Communication Skills
INTJs try to figure out how the world around them is structured and what can be changed in it. They feel the best when they have figured something out and know how to improve it.
INTJs are comfortable carrying out a conversation. They are neither arrogant nor are they formal, but might refrain from becoming quick acquaintances. They can come up against difficulties in situations requiring finer soft skills when communicating, such as being very tactful or particularly patient. On the whole, INTJs respect the established rules of communications although at times they may see them as a formality or a relic of tradition.
INTJs may find it difficult to express themselves about the finer feelings of the soul: the topics of love or lyric poetry can fail to elicit a strong emotional response in them.
In communication INTJs usually come across as well thought out and to the point. Despite their introversive attitude, when they have something, they find profoundly interesting, like an idea or project of some sort, their enthusiasm about it may become quite “contagious” and can spread to those around them.
At times, INTJs seem somewhat closed and distant in communication. But it is during this time that they are revising their views and conceptions, and/or are involved in forming new ones. Those who can guess the reasons for their apparent detachedness can easily engage INTJs in conversation by making some critical comment regarding the concepts INTJs have deduced. In these situations, INTJs can quite often become wordy and very talkative.
An INTJ’s social contacts are, as a rule, low in number and mostly limited to his or her circle of relatives, friends, colleagues, and others of a like mind.
That being said, INTJs can have quite a few business contacts, because many people find it interesting or important to get an INTJ’s in-depth expert opinion, which they can offer on many serious issues. Their business communication usually includes exchange of points of view, ideas, discussing organizational methods and solutions.
Here is a link to a self-bio short bio I wrote a while back:
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